Have you been dating a great guy with whom
you've had a great relationship, and then all over a sudden he seems to
have a change of heart? The phone calls may come less often, or they
may disappear all together. This is something that many of us have had
to deal with. In such a situation, you may feel like picking the phone
and helping him 'get back to normal.'
When your guy doesn't call anymore, calling
him to ask why or let him know how you feel will hardly yield positive
results. This does not mean that you just have to burn with frustration
as he does not seem to care for you anymore. Of course, you've got to
let him know of your need. However, the way of going about it may not
be how you think.
When you confront him with the issue
directly, you are highly likely to ruin a good relationship. In order
to lay your strategy well, you will need to understand why he doesn't
call in the first place.
One of the important things you should be
aware of is that your boyfriend is more likely to show you how he feels
rather than tell you verbally. This goes even into his lack of calling.
Perhaps he just doesn't feel like talking at that moment.
Sitting on the fence
Another reason that may make your man not
get in touch is the turmoil he is going through. While he is interested
in you, he does not seem prepared to take things too seriously. In this
valley of indecision, he will call very rarely, may be just enough not
to break the thread that ties both of you but not enough to turn it
into a rope.
When you rush into calling him, you may just
ruin something great that was in the making. Instead of calling, you
should use the time you spend together for the maximum benefit.
Know him better
Just as your relationship develops, you
should start to take a close look at how he acts in order to understand
him better. You should in turn act in a way that shows his masculinity
and you will finally win him over.
For example, you should not usurp his role as the chaser. Give him the opportunity to chase you and he will take the cue.
